The other day I was talking to a friend I knew for quite some time. She always talked of her family including her husband. She talked of what a great person he is, what a sweet daddy he is and so on .
One day she was venting on how she found out how her husband has been cheating on her. She was very hurt and depressed. A mom of five young boys. She didn’t know what to do next. She was very depressed and said she couldn’t move forward.
I was surprised to hear this because every one thought she had the perfect marriage and the perfect husband. She asked me for advise on how to put this pass her.
I really didn’t know how to answer so I did the best I can. I told her I knew how it felt to feel alone and scared . I then added that I was in a different situation than her. I told her about my abused life and marriage.
What she told me next was to my surprise. She said she was abused also. I never expected this because she never seems to be a victim and was constantly talking so highly of her husband.
Like I always say abuse can be happening anywhere to any woman or man. There are not always bruise not always signs to look for.
I hid my abuse for many years and being a survivor of my past I have to say to victims. I know its hard to speak out I been there. Find one person you can trust and let them know. Don’t hide in shame or embarrassment like I did as well as many others. Abuse is not your fault. Its nothing yo feel you have to be shameful about and continue to live in it. You children are being exposed to it. You may feel they are to young to notice or understand, believe me they know. Get out and get help. Since childhood I his sexual and physical abuse. My daughters were raise in it . Now at the age of 45 , I look back at those years and ask myself how did you survive. I am a survivor and you can be to. Speak out your not alone and someone will hear you.