Sharing the Knowledge of God’s Words For Healing

Through my own healing I had to renew myself to Jesus with the help of  learning the knowledge of the words of God’s words .I have found the answers I needed to heal and let go my struggles to God and exept Jesus as my savior .

I will continue to share the word of Our Father and help make a difference is someone elses healing

“Jesus left the temple and was going away, when his disciples came to point out to him the buildings of the temple. But he answered them, “You see all these, do you not? Truly, I say to you, there will not be left here one stone upon another that will not be thrown down.” As he sat on the Mount of Olives, the disciples came to him privately, saying, “Tell us, when will these things be, and what will be the sign of your coming and of the close of the age?” And Jesus answered them, “See that no one leads you astray. For many will come in my name, saying, ‘I am the Christ,’ and they will lead many astray. …”

Matthew 24:1-51

Rom 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

WE CAN BE TRANSFORMED AND CHANGED INTO A NEW CREATION (PERSON) AND BE ABLE TO RENEW OR CHANGE THE WAY OUR MINDS THINK THROUGH THE READING OF THE WORD OF GOD.

 

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BEGIN TODAY AND MAKE A DIFFERENCE FOR TOMORROW

Domestic violence is it an epidemic sweeping the world today or is it just ignorance. This is something we have to look at in two different parts so we can change and stop this violence form hitting another generation of our future.

   The generation of the future begins with our children today; our children are the ones that make the chance of stopping violence from plaguing in Gods world.  So we begin with “how do we do this?”

  Depending on the way we raise our children and the morals we instill in them is how it will affect their future as they become adults in their lives. If we teach our children the words of God beginning at a toddlers age and instill the scripture and the knowledge about the bible and what Jesus did for us and the understanding he is our savior through life until our eternal calling to the Lord, this knowledge will always be with them.  Just like teaching them to walk, talk, ride a bike, tie their shoe, sing, use the restroom on their own, eating and read once learn they will always keep these things in their minds they will be things that is never forgotten. Every day they will grow acting on these knowledge’s we have taught them and it becomes a natural practice automatically everyday without thinking of it, it becomes an instinct as part of their daily routine. If we neglect to teach them the world of God then this is something they will never know to follow.

  Children are like sponges they more they learn, hear, see or witness in life as a children will reflect their lives and how they will raise their children later in adulthood.

  If they are raise into a life of alcohol abuse, drug abuse, sexual abuse, and domestic violence; this will make a major impact on them it’s the environment they adapted to live in. Just like an animal , if a baby bear cub was born into the wilderness it adapts to its surroundings /environment learns how to eat  protect himself in nature for survival , hunt for food attack when its threaten. Then take a baby bear cub that is raise from birth in a zoo. Its upbringing is totally different a lot calmer and tamed. Their food is brought to them by man, its surrounding has no danger to use their protective instincts so they to adapt to their life style.

 Now take and put that baby bear that’s in the wilderness and place it in the cubs den at the zoo how will this bear react? When man enter the den to feed the wild bear will react to the mans and his entrance into this surrounding. He will feel threaten and more and likely attack to protect himself from the danger he feels. They will even attack the other bears in this den to take their food also just to make sure its food supply is abundant.

  Take the bear that was raise in a zoo how will he react in the wilderness with other animals.  He will not know how to hunt for its food. Food was always provided for him. If another animal will approach him when he does find a bit to eat when this happens that bear will not have the survival instinct to depend and protect himself, so he will go hungry. This bear will not survive in the wilderness.

  This analogy is the same as our children today. If a child is raise around drug abuse, physical abuse, neglect, sometimes even sexual abuse, and domestic violence; this will be the environment they will ever know how to live. So they will grow to be aggressive, insecure of themselves, emotional and mental illnesses. They will be negative in society without a total promised future. They will be more apt to rely on substance abuse, weakness and violence with possibly major crimes committed. This is the only way they will know how to survive.

  If a child was raise with religion knowledge and wisdom then their future will look more positive to them as they are adults. They will progress in life and be more successful. They also will be able to share their knowledge and their wisdom to aid in helping the weak one to Find Jesus and change their lives. They will be strong enough to keep pressing to change the violence the substance abuse and make a change to Gods World.

   Let us as parents begin here today make our children a positive role model in their future. Let’s us be strong survivors and inspire and encourage other to do the same with their children’s future. By doing this it’s the only way we can stop the abuse that is plaguing the world today. Begin today and make a difference for tomorrow.

 

Leaving The Past Behind

To avoid stumbling or losing your place,dont look back. You cant change the
past, but thank God you can learn form it and leave it behind.

“let us
lay aside every weight and the sin wich so easily ensnares us , and let us run
with endurance the race that set before us Hebrews 12:1

Many of us carry
the weight and worry of burdens that older and wiser people understand are of no
real importance. We spend our strength extinguishing fires that, if left alone,
would burn out on their own. Time is your most valuable resource. Save it and
you’ve increased your assets and decreased your liabilities. Get rid of the
baggage of old relationships, pointless fears, and false indebtedness to those
who seek to manipulate you. There are enough painful trials in life; why endure
the ones you can lay aside?

Incest Abuse

I had did some research on after talking to a survivor of incest today on a online support group. I felt it was neccesary to post this blog. The emotional and mental effect this has on a child during tis form of abuse is just a bit more exstreme than sexual abuse. This is because for one its ongoing and the other the love and trust of the perpetrator is confusing growing up through this.

INCEST is any use of a minor child to meet the sexual or sexual/emotional needs of one or more older or more powerful persons in ongoing

emotional relationship(s) with that child (parent, step- or grandparent, sibling, babysitter, mother’s boyfriend, teacher, rabbi, priest,

family doctor, etc.). Although incest has traditionally been defined as sex and/or marriage between close relatives, above all, it is

child abuse.an assault on the child’s sexual boundaries by the very person(s) entrusted with her care. It is a violation of a

dependency bond, not of a blood relationship. And it does not require touch. A child can be violated through inappropriate

photographs, the way she is talked to or by the way she is looked at.

Incest is such a traumatic experience that its victims may forget that it even occurred. But its scars live on, confusing in their

seeming meaninglessness. Problems with sex, trust, touch, addictions, paralyzing depression, memory, shame and guilt can feel

crazy and out of control, especially when the cause is unknown. This Checklist describes the consequences of incest trauma. It

offers a profile of the post-incest experience in women (although many items apply to men as well), or .Post-Incest Syndrome..

It can be used as a guide to help survivors understand that there are legitimate reasons for their unrelenting difficulties.that, in

fact, these .problems. are actually valiant attempts to cope with an impossible situation, and to meet healthy underlying needs.

Many of the items on this list can also apply to survivors of childhood abuses such as battering, or adult children of families where

there is a history of alcoholism. Incest is especially common in alcoholic families, although not all alcohol-involved abuse is

attributable to the disease of alcoholism.

Have you been struggling with problems that nothing seemed to help, for which even therapy could not find a cause? If the

majority of the items of this list apply to you, you might want to consider whether you are a survivor of incest.

If you are a survivor, above all, know this: you are not to blame. And healing is possible; with help, you can break free

from the self-blame, isolation, and the entrapment of Post-Incest Syndrome.

This Checklist is based on an original list by New York Women Against Rape, as well as

extensive observation of and communication with survivors. To all who contributed:

your generous sharing of your experiences and pain is a gift to all survivors. Here are some of emotional and mentals as listed.

This Checklist is based on an original list by New York Women Against Rape, as well as

extensive observation of and communication with survivors. To all who contributed:

your generous sharing of your experiences and pain is a gift to all survivors.

1.  Fear of being alone in the dark, of sleeping alone; nightmares (especially of rape, pursuit, threat, entrapment, blood); night

terrors

2.  Swallowing and gagging sensitivity; repugnance to water on face when bathing or swimming (suffocation feelings)

3.  Poor or distorted body image; alienation from, not at home in, failure to heed signals or take care of body; manipulating

body size to avoid sexual attention; compulsive cleanliness, incl. bathing in scalding water; or, total inattention to personal

appearance or hygiene

4.  Somatization, stress-related diseases: gastrointestinal problems, GYN disorders (including spontaneous vaginal infections);

headaches; arthritis/joint pain; fibromyalgia. Also internal scarring.

5.  Wearing a lot of clothing, even in summer; baggy clothes; failure to remove clothing even when appropriate to do so : while

swimming, bathing, sleeping and extreme requirement for privacy when using bathroom

6.  Addictions, eating disorders, drug and or alcohol overuse, abuse or total abstinence; compulsive behaviors

7.  Self-injury, cutting, burning,  physical pain is manageable this is an addictive pattern); self-destructiveness

8.  Phobias, panic, anxiety

9.  Need to be invisible, perfect, or perfectly bad

10.  Suicidal thoughts, attempts, obsession (including .passive suicide.)

11.  Depression (sometimes paralyzing); seemingly baseless crying; sadness

12.  Childhood hiding, hanging on, cowering in corners, adult nervousness over being watched or

surprised; feeling watched; startle response; hypervigilance

13.  Inability to trust (trust is not safe); absolute trust that turns to rage when disappointed; trusting indiscriminately

14.  Control, power, territoriality issues; fear of losing control; obsessive and compulsive behaviors don’t matter, just to control something!); power and sex confusion

15.  Guilt, shame, low self-esteem, feeling worthless, high appreciation of small favors by others

16.  Pattern of being a victim , especially sexually; no sense of own power

or right to set limits or say .no;. pattern of relationships with much older or more powerful persons (onset in adolescence);

OR exaggerated sense of entitlement; revictimization by others

17.  Must .produce. to be loved; instinctively knowing, doing what the others need or want; relationships.

18.  Disturbances in attachment; abandonment issues; desire for relationships with no separateness; avoidance/fear of intimacy

19.  Dissociation: blocking out some period of early years , specific person, place, event; creating fantasy worlds,

identities (incl. women imagining self to be male, = not a victim); Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) (was MPD)

20.  Feeling of carrying an awful secret; urge to tell/ fear of its being revealed; certainty that no-one would listen. Being

generally secretive. Feeling .marked.

21.  Feeling crazy; feeling different; feeling oneself to be unreal and everyone else to be real, or cognitive problems

22.  Denial ; repression of memories; pretending; minimizing strong, deep, .inappropriate.

negative reactions to a person, place or event; flashbacks, which may occur as dreams, or sensory flashes with no meaning; or memories of surrounding details but not event or identity of abuser. Memory often begins with

least threatening event or abuser. Details of experience may never be fully or accurately known, but much recovery is

possible without full recall. Your inner guide will release memories at the pace you can handle

23.  Sexual issues: sex feels .dirty;. aversion to being touched; strong aversion to (or need for) particular sex acts; feeling

betrayed by one’s body; trouble integrating sexuality and emotionality; confusion or overlapping of affection/ sex/

dominance/ aggression/ violence; having to pursue power in sexual arena which is actually sexual acting out (self-abuse,

manipulation [esp. women]; abuse of others [esp. men]); compulsively .seductive,. or compulsively asexual; must be sexual

aggressor, or cannot be; impersonal, .promiscuous. sex with strangers concurrent with inability to have sex in intimate

relationship (conflict between sex and caring); prostitute, stripper, .sex symbol, porn actress; sexual

.acting out. to meet anger or revenge needs; sexual addiction; avoidance; shutdown; crying after orgasm; pursuit feels like

violation; sexualizing of all meaningful relationships; erotic response to abuse or anger, sexual fantasies of dominance/ real

rape (results in guilt and confusion); teenage pregnancy. Note: Homosexuality is not an aftereffect!

24  Pattern of ambivalent or intensely conflictual relationships (abuse is familiar; also, in true intimacy, issues are more likely to

surface; in problem relationships, focus can be shifted from real issue of incest). Note: Partner of survivor often suffers

consequences of Post-Incest Syndrome also (especially sex and relationship issues)

25.  Avoidance of mirrors (connected with invisibility, shame/self-esteem issues; distorted perceptions of face or body, DID)

26.  Desire to change one.s name (to dis-associate from the perpetrator or take control through self-labeling)

27.  Limited tolerance for happiness; active withdrawal from/ reluctance to trust happiness (.ice = thin.)

28.  Aversion to noise-making (including during sex, crying, laughing, or other body functions); verbal hypervigilance (careful

monitoring of one’s words); quiet-voiced, especially when needing to be heard

29.  Stealing (adults); fire-starting (children)

30.  Food sensitivities/avoidance based on texture (mayonnaise) or appearance (hot dogs), which remind the survivor of abuse,

or smell/sound which remind survivor of perpetrator; aversion to meat, red foods

31.  Compulsive honesty or compulsive dishonesty (lying)

32  Hypervigilance regarding child abuse, or inability to see child abuse, or avoidance of any awareness or mention of child

abuse; tendency to develop relationships with incest perpetrators

33.  Personality disorders, characteristics; Psychiatric illness

(NOTE: Post-Incest Syndrome is often misdiagnosed as these)

THE INCEST SURVIVORS’ AFTEREFFECTS CHECKLIST

reseached information E. Sue Blume, C.S.W., Diplomate in Clinical Social Work

 

If you or someone you know is in an incest situation, do not hesitate to ask for help.

You can call Child Protective Services (CPS) for your area.

You can also find the number for Child Protective Services in the Blue Pages of your phone book.

If you believe that the child is in immediate danger, call 911